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VIEW DEALING WITH A SOCIOPATH AS ONE OF LIFE'S LEARNING EXPERIENCES, IN THE FUTURE YOU WILL BE ABLE TO DINE OUT FOR YEARS ON THE STORIES although don't bore people for too long because they want to tell their stories. If you are dealing with a violent and dangerous sociopath you of course need professional advice and help and need to be very very careful. This is about the garden variety sociopaths living next door or with you who are not violently dangerous. LIGHTEN UP- these people, with the odd dangerous exception, are not monsters but people who are about two years old in the head. Completely ego centric, make messes that mummy can clean up, chuck tantrums, and imitate other people. All baby humans learn by imitating others it is just that the sociopath never leaves this state, why, because they can't they just do not have the brain capacity to do so. It is easy to be fooled by a sociopath because they just mirror you and if you are decent they appear to be as well. Sociopaths are very fussy- they want to imitate the best and so it is a compliment really that they chose you as their model and because they have a great sense of entitlement they want the best of everything- unable to provide it themselves they chose some-one who can. Take solace in the fact they are not attracted to losers they want winners. They of course want to beat you. Why, because they know you are better and they hate you for it. FORGET ALL THAT RUBBISH ABOUT  destroying you - drama queen stuff- you are just in a state of shock- you will return to normal. It is of course initially quite difficult to understand that a small percentage of the population simply think and behave as a sociopath does.  We all of course have sociopathic tendencies- there are just degrees. The really sociopathic people just tick every box on the list "Are you a sociopath" Everyone on the planet would tick at least some of the boxes. We are all capable of selfish, manipulative, ruthless and deceptive behaviour- there are just degrees. The human brain is very good at convincing its owner that they are not like that but of course we all have these tendencies. They are about survival and only a very small percentage of people at the other end of the scale have altruistic natures. Mother Theresa, the small percentage of people who were old and went to the Nazi gas chambers so a younger person would be saved. Only rare people did this. We of course have some altruistic characteristics as well. It is also about survival- that's what makes people so protective of their children- many people of course are willing to sacrifice themselves for their children. Only a small percentage of people can extend these feelings to everyone. You have just not been put in a situation or inherited a particular type of brain that makes you very sociopathic. TAKE SOLACE IN THE FACT that if you have been done over by one it will not do them any good because the sociopath is a very unhappy person and they will always be unhappy because they have no emotions and do not know what happy is. THEY MAY TAKE SOME OF YOUR MONEY- do a quick calculation on what a good lawyer will cost you and some of your property and then work out what another twenty years of this type of parasite would cost you and you will find you are well ahead and view it as money well spent. If you are particularly pissed off pay a really good lawyer and give a lot of money to them- especially if they are doing a good job and you enjoy their company- you are going to have to hand over some so why not give it to a person of your choosing. TRY TO PALM THEM OFF ONTO ONE OF THEIR LOVERS- the good thing about the sociopath is they generally have a few relationships going at once- point out their wonderful qualities to which ever lover your sociopath has, which you like the  least. Tell their lovers that you are quite mad and they will of course be treated  differently. Try to pick one of their other lovers who is also sociopathic and there will be one in the big pile of people they use. Play fair and warn the decent people who they are also abusing. They may not believe you but you have done your best. Then it is their choice and problem, REMEMBER THE least little thing pisses them off because they are so important (in their mind) in fact you can do absolutely nothing except have a good time with your new found freedom (from them) and know they will be blaming you for everything that happens to them without you having to lift a finger. THEY HAVE NEVER LOVED YOU- isn't this great you will never need to feel so much as a moment of remorse or guilt if you do anything nasty to them . Vent a bit especially if you are normally polite and considerate, you may never get another opportunity to discover what it is like to be an arsehole. THEY WILL QUICKLY MOVE ON AND never think about you again - even better now they are some-one else problem. THEY ARE EASY TO READ-want to know what they are up to- whatever it is they are accusing you of- how easy is that. THEY WILL TELL LIES TO everyone about you and take out an AVO if you look at them sideways (because they are bullies and cowards) - just remember you can meet some really hunky policeman- generally in a lot better condition than the sociopath reporting you. Remember no matter how good a liar your sociopath is and they may have fooled you for a while, the police deal with sociopaths and liars on a daily  basis- they are not easily fooled. THEY WILL TELL EVERYONE YOU ARE MAD- of course they will, view it as an opportunity to behave in an outrageous way that normally your conscience would not let you do. You can actually have a lot of fun. THEY LIKE TO WIN- so does everyone that's how we are biologically programmed it is just that the rest of us have other interests. Trying to spend your whole life winning is very exhausting and lets be frank a complete waste of time except for 15 minutes of fame. EVENTUALLY they end of in the same pit of desperation and despair that they put every one else into- the difference is they cannot ever get out of it. In the meantime remember they are not cold and calculating but rather endlessly bored ( a really horrible way to live ) THEY PLAY GAMES-learn them and play back or if you become bored - become a bit sociopathic yourself, view it  as a lesson in learning to keep your emotions in check and we can all benefit from that. They mirror you so don't react and seriously do you care if they go? They are takers- the givers actually have all the power- just stop giving. View them as a lesson in how to take better care of yourself- you will never become that selfish but you can at least practice for a while. Even if you are not a game player yourself it is very useful to know the games other people play. The ultimate game of course is not to play any- this really confuses people. FINALLY- just be grateful you are not one. Endlessly bored, never understanding  the chaos you create, not understanding reason or the consequences of your actions- do you really want to be like that? Don't feel pity for them though they don't need that they bounce back pretty quick but do not waste your time hating them either. These people did not say " gee I am really glad to have inherited a genetic disposition towards sociopathic behaviour  and/or  really wanted an abusive childhood so I could spend my life leaving a trail of broken people behind me" - they are what they are. But do not let that understanding deter you from their removal. They are also useful they can do stuff the rest of us would find disgusting but sometimes needs to be done allowing us of course to pretend we are nice people-  that's their job  (sort of modern day Black Knight which of course sounds much more glamorous than sociopath or malignant narcissist)  and it would not be fair to them if they got upset about the unpleasant stuff they do so the rest of us don't have to.  You can also be grateful for the fact they drop the mask and show you what they are really like- this avoids you having any doubts about leaving them and remember every nasty sick thing they do is just another demonstration that you have made an accurate assessment of them. Don't worry about what you can or cannot prove in court if you have worked them out that is all that matters.  So they fooled you for a while- every one plays the fool on occasions. Move on and get over it, the fact you have been made a fool of interests other people for about 15 seconds and then they of course go back to worrying about their own lives which of course they have to so they can survive. Be grateful to anyone who was prepared to support you even in some small way and be careful not to put other people in danger.  MORE QUESTIONS ANSWERED How do you explain a sociopath spiritually? A marked man ( their eyes tell you this) soul less ( their eyes tell you this as well) and eventually when they go not a living soul misses them. The demons of desperation and despair ultimately their own. Sociopaths and narcissists rarely kill themselves, the reason, they are already dead. OR people with shit for brains who don't realise it and think they have some special gift and waste a lot of time trying to prove to others how "special " they are  even though everyone who meets them figures out pretty quickly they are " no good".  The difficulty when dealing with them is trying to figure out how some-one this useless and stupid can cause so much trouble, but ultimately that's it shit for brains and everything they touch turns to shit, too dumb to figure out why they just blame everyone else and tell lie, after lie after lie in a vain attempt to prove to God only knows who just how special they are. They are actually pretty common approximately  1 in 20 people are sociopathic. In some classrooms there are a  couple in training up the back of the room, refusing to get their pens and books out, refusing to co-operate, demanding non stop attention from the teacher whilst doing nothing except breathing and annoying everyone else. Causing trouble, hiding in cupboards and flicking things around, when caught out deny it or lie and blame some one else yes VERY SPECIAL.   As adults they continue with their behaviour and are usually referred to as dickheads. Yes very special. YOUR SPIRITUAL DUTY should one cross your path- shine the light of goodness on them and then when they just don't get it, get out the high powered torch, lift up the rock and flush them out and expose them for what they are horrible creatures who sadly are needed for the entire human race to survive(some-one has to do the dirty jobs)  you just don't want one in your garden.  Move them along you have done your time with them, let some-one else take care of them and they will find some-one else hopefully some-one as hideous as themselves and finally alone living with their greatest fear ABANDONMENT. ARE SOCIOPATHS DANGEROUS- yes, they are. Some are violent and dangerous these obvious ones usually  inhabit the criminal world. The really dangerous ones make it to the CI channel.  The garden variety type are more insidious. These are the nasty losers, the parasites with delusions of grandeur and there are a surprisingly large number of them. A very dangerous time  is when people discover the person they thought they  knew doesn't actually exist.When you  discover their secret life, a secret life they have basically to alleviate the constant boredom that they suffer and to prove how special they are ( called delusions of grandeur).  This comes as a very big shock.  It is sort of like being in a bizzare kind of world for a while. Whilst you might feel sad about all the damage they have done ( and if you are a decent person you will)  you are in no way responsible for it. Nothing you could have done would have changed them NOTHING. Do not waste so much as a second accepting any kind of responsibility. They did it all by themselves. They are the masters of blame and eliciting sympathy ignore them, get rid of them and be ruthless about it. Not your normal behaviour dig a bit deeper you'll find enough to get rid of them.   It is at this time that some people kill themselves and sadly I have known people do this. DO NOT DO THIS. Do not let them win like this and remember there is always a reason to live even if it is not to inflict pain on the people that love you and you will leave behind even more despair, or if you get really desperate who will feed the dog? The decent kind good person you thought you were living with is YOU reflected back at yourself. The world needs more good people.  A sociopath mirrors the person they are with that is how they fool people. When you finally get rid of them and this does take a lot of effort, but worth it, and they will take from you - some of your money, your trust in people, your sense of reality ( they are parasitic) it will however gradually come back to you just hang in there, the good thing is  after a while though  it will feel like they never existed because really they didn't. You were living with a reflection of  yourself. They are gone and yes they will move on and do it to the next person but ultimately become victims of their own behaviour. All eventually end up in a pit of desperation and despair. You move on and continue what you are supposed to be doing, the right thing. You are not in charge of the universe or these people just view it as a bit of a duty you have taken care of some loser for a while, some-one  has to do it and you must be doing okay otherwise they would not have targeted you. Your life will be fine after they have gone.  PS- before embarking on a ruthless eradication program make sure you are dealing with a sociopath or narcissist if your man just shagged the town tart behind the toilets at the footy oval when pissed  that does not necessarily mean he is a sociopath just a bloke thinking with his dick sadly these are very common too. About 1 in 1 men  think with their dicks whereas only about 1 in 20 people are sociopathic. CHARACTERISTICS THEY ARE PARASITIC-  have others pay their way and often have a number of women or men (depending on their sex)  on the go at the same time. There are no moral issues for them because quite simply they have no morals and do not care who gets hurt as long as it is not them. They also do not have the capacity to figure out their actions will hurt anybody.  Only involve themselves with people they can get some benefit from , why? because- THEY HAVE A GREAT SENSE OF ENTITLEMENT- they believe that they are entitled to anything they want-if they can't afford it some-one else can pay-  this is because they are like two year olds, trying to figure out the social rules without any understanding, totally self centred and badly behaved. They believe they are entitled to things because they believe lying, cheating and stealing is work and fair enough it probably does require a lot of effort to do the sort of stuff they do, they just have a different definition of what work  and clever is compared to the non sociopath. THEY CREATE CHAOS AND CONFUSION- and they do it without even trying- this is of course because their behaviour is a reflection of their minds. THEY HAVE NO FEELINGS FOR ANYONE- which might sound bad but they just have no feelings at all.  They do not, unless threatened, purposely hurt people- for them other people do not really matter or even exist at all. Which is why they are described as users and abusers. When threatened however they become  nasty ( as we all can be) it is just they are particularly vicious because they lack feelings, have a great sense of entitlement and don't care what other people may think of their behaviour. They have no shame or embarrassment so it is just no holds barred for them. THEY LIKE TO PLAY GAMES WITH OTHER PEOPLE- they do this because they have no feelings for others, are constantly bored, do not know what they want, and if you ask them why they do it they say something like " because it is fun."  They unlike empathetic people do not spend their time thinking and worrying about their families, or if they are doing the right thing etc, are not in any conflict about their emotions because they do not have many emotions and so have time to plot and scheme and think up devious ways to get what they want. THEY HAVE TO WIN- and they do not care who gets hurt because other people just do not matter- everyone likes to win and we are all programmed to be selfish it is just that the sociopath takes it to extremes. In their minds if you lose to them you are weak, if you win you are a threat. THEY DO NOT UNDERSTAND REASON OR THE CONSEQUENCES OF THEIR BEHAVIOUR- that is another reason they create havoc. They are not clever they are cunning- once again because they have no choice. If you are not clever well you have to use cunning instead. They simply do not have the capacity to understand what their behaviour could lead to and of course when fronted with the disasters they create it is always some-one else's fault. THEY ARE OPPORTUNISTIC- they are constantly on the look out for any opportunity that could benefit them and if it is when some-one else is down even better, less work for them. THEY ARE ACTUALLY in most cases (serial killers the exception) OBNOXIOUS and DEMANDING PEOPLE, but in their minds they are pretty special and I guess we all kid ourselves we are too. They do however create unbelievable messes which they leave for other people to clean up. Why - because they are just not capable of cleaning up the mess themselves and actually have no understanding whatsoever how they actually created them, so therefore in their kind of logic it must be some-one else's fault. Sad really. But don't let pity ever sway you from their removal- they just have to go- palm them off onto one of their sociopathic lovers is always a good move might cost you a bit but money well spent. THEY ARE OUTRAGED AT THE THINGS OTHERS COULDN'T GIVE A SHIT ABOUT AND LEFT QUITE COLD BY STUFF NON SOCIOPATHIC PEOPLE WOULD BE HORRIFIED ABOUT- why- because they have no feelings for anything but that which threatens them and then they go into really nasty mode. They cannot understand how some one would get upset about certain things because they cannot empathise with other people or understand feelings they have never experienced themselves. THEY USE PHRASES LIKE- it's all a game, expect the unexpected- because they create so much havoc they have to expect the unexpected and for them everything is a game that they have to win. Of course their idea of winning and everyone else's is quite different. For them winning is about harming others and getting what they want. This can vary from total control of others to using others for their own gains or a combination of both. They are of course not nice. The rare sociopath with a very high IQ ( and very high IQ's are rare to begin with) are particularly not nice. Ted Bundy types. Lost of course in the end but caused a lot of damage on the way. All believe they are too clever to be caught. THEY HAVE NO PLANS FOR THE FUTURE- or ridiculous ones that they have no hope of ever achieving, because  clever in the lying, cheating, manipulative, stealing kind of way bit generally not in the intellectual clever category- if they were they would not have to behave as they do. They love power. The power they use is to control others but everyone gets sick of it eventually. When people finally abandon them they are shocked to discover the other person knew they were lying, cheating and stealing but the other person of course, in their minds has suddenly gone mad. This is quite logical really, they generally have been getting away with their behaviour for a long time. THEY DIVIDE PEOPLE INTO- people they can use, people who will help them and game spoilers. Anyone they deal with eventually plays all three roles. They also have very low resting pulse rates, an aversion to sudden flashes of light and "dead" eyes which are most obvious in photographs. and of course they lie, lie and lie about absolutely everything and can change their story at an amazing speed. I do not have an email service for my website I'm not that arrogant, well I probably am but can't figure at how to set up the mail service-  I do however check the statistics for the web page and note the search phrases used by people who probably land on the site by accident. I will however attempt to answer the questions about sociopaths that a number of people appear to want answered given the search phrases they have used- WHY DO SOCIOPATHS MIMIC PEOPLE- everyone mimics and mirrors others people when they are children that is how you learn to speak and behave watching  other members of your species. You also have a lot of genetic hardwiring with regards certain emotions, behaviours and survival skills. Example- if you are a normal person with the vast array of conflicting emotions you may attend a funeral as a young person and you will feel sad, a sense of loss this is normal because your survival may be threatened if you lose an older caregiver or your emotional support is damaged because you love this person. Even if you don't care that much you will feel guilty that you don't . A sociopath doesn't feel anything like sadness or guilt. You feel sad or grief stricken and you want to cry you look around and see what the adults are doing and depending upon which culture you are growing up in you either keep a stiff upper lip, wail and beat your breast or cry quietly. The sociopath feels absolutely nothing for this person. They are probably pissed off that they have been inconvenienced or the food at the wake was ordinary, they are also bored, bored, bored and do not know what sad is and look around and see others crying and think better cry that's what you do in these situations They watch very closely and mimic whoever they are with. They will cry because that's what everyone else is doing but unlike you they feel nothing except perhaps lets hurry this up so we can turn all the attention back on me or I'm bored who can I target for my own amusement and even better get them into trouble for not behaving properly at the funeral. They mimic people because they have not got a clue what to do otherwise and are basically dumb and not very nice people. Baby sociopaths also figure out pretty quickly that people find the fact you are imitating them or just like them really flattering and people will trust you if they feel you are just like them, they learn that this is a useful way of manipulating people. They can pretend they are just like you example - if you love animals they can pretend they do too when really they could kick a dog in the head when your back is turned and enjoy it. They will also use the fact that you love animals or your kids to get at you later hurting some pet you love or the kids to get at you. Basically your average sociopath is a bit primitive, not very intelligent and .brain damaged  whilst deluding themselves that they are somehow special and clever.  As kids they beat up on their weaker or younger siblings or the family pet anything that didn't fight back. When they are alone they really do not exist there is nothing there "dead eyes no soul " dead man walking and that is why they fear abandonment so much, alone is very scary place when you have not much going on inside your head and your only chance at survival is to attach  yourself to some-one who you can use. Deep down they are full of rage and resentful of everyone else because they really have no clue how other people think and operate and only see the glossy exterior of the lives of others. Jealous, spiteful and vindictive because every one else appears to have it easy or has things that they want. They have no clue as to how hard successful people have worked to achieve what they have and have what is known as a great sense of entitlement. I should have it without any work or effort  because I want it and I am special, that's it. If other people have what I want it's just not right and I have every right to steal it if I want it because I am special. Probably needed a couple more hidings as two year olds.  HOW MALE SOCIOPATHS FOOL WOMEN- they know that deep down a lot of women would like some bloke to show them the same emotional support and listen like their woman friends do. This is not possible, real non sociopathic blokes cannot, no matter how hard they would like to please you, offer you the emotional support of your best friend they just have not got that kind of programming forget it. Even your decent hardworking real bloke does not understand women and cannot understand how you feel. Too basic. Eating, shitting, dick and sleep a few beers and life's good. That's it. Your average real bloke does not give a flying fu-- about your emotional needs nor does he understand what emotional needs even means  or how that bitch in the office is making your life a  misery their  only interest in her would be a cursory look to see if they were pissed enough whether or not  they would  shag  her. The sociopath however is a master of pretending they do care about your needs, will listen intently and then have you thinking they are a sensitive nice bloke who really cares and that you can really talk to and that understands you . Wrong. They are actually gathering information to use against you later. So if they are too nice, too interested and seem to be offering emotional support the chances are they are not real blokes but a sociopath. Flattery and intense interest straight away is also a warning you have a wolf in sheep's clothing. BEATING THE LEGAL SYSTEM- sociopaths do not beat the legal system. The prison system is packed full of sociopaths. They believe they can beat the system but the legal system contains people far more educated than them. They believe they can fool everyone because they have no real concept just how clever other people are and how stupid they really are. The legal system sees  sociopaths on a daily basis all who think they are really clever and no-one has thought of doing the "clever " things they have thought of before when in actual fact the legal system sees this crap on a daily basis. Your average Police officer can spot a liar  five hundred metres away.  They will use the legal system just to get at you and try to bully you and often have no understanding of how limited or specific  in some cases the remedies offered by the legal system are or how it actually works. SOCIOPATHS  are basically losers, they do not win because they are not trying to win but trying to  beat others  and there is a real difference. Example-  A winner in a hundred metre sprint race is focused on a spot beyond the finish line, A sociopath is standing before the finish line waiting to trip over the person who is faster or better than them. They stop others from winning but they are not winning either. They like every one to lose - if they cannot win then neither will anyone else. Their  real interest is in stopping others who are better than they are from winning. With this kind of focus you do not win just create trouble. Most have low intelligence levels and make up for it by being sneaky, and cunning and manipulative you have to be like this if you are not intelligent otherwise you would not survive. Think of your average two years old covering his eyes and saying "now you can't see me" while kicking the family cat, playing with  his crotch and demanding your attention right now this very minute, blaming his brother for all the trouble and  you probably have the sociopathic mind in perspective. Sociopaths unlike the rest of us never leave this emotional level, while the rest of us develop emotionally, morally and spiritually and develop a conscience  the sociopath remains two years old forever. Narcissists on the other hand advance to the level of your average five year old who has figured out that if you are going to do something sneaky it is best to do it when other people have their eyes closed. Its like arrested development.  If you are dealing with a sociopath and you are in a bit of a hurry just lie to them works every time they lie on a continuous basis but never expect anyone to do it to them and it really confuses them it's just not right. If you are dealing with one in court and they all LOVE the legal system, sensible decent people offer reasonable solutions and come to agreements outside of court, these people are not sensible and reasonable and will keep you tired up for as long as possible ( just get on with your life in the mean time)  it gives them an opportunity to piss off other people, waste their time and money, once again not winning anything really just causing trouble for others. One of their favourite pastimes. Sadly if you are involved with a sociopath you probably will end up in court somewhere, just part of the territory. After dealing with one however you will be able to spot one at a thousand metres in the future and avoid them.   A good lawyer can twist your words.   The easiest solution is just to keep telling the TRUTH, over and over again if you have to and you will. You need evidence make sure you have it.  A decent Judge can spot the truth and has seen liars and arseholes on a daily basis ) eventually (the legal system is not known for its speed.)  catches up with them. If they lose they pay your costs.  The legal system eventually catches up with people who waste other people's time and money, it just takes a long time. To take a line from Rumpole of the Bailey "what can you do with a witness who is obviously and blatantly telling the truth? Not much. Make sure you DO NOT front the court without a lawyer, stupid move, but carefully select a decent one (they do exist) who knows their stuff and follow his/her advice. You do have to defend yourself, fight for what is yours however when they tell you the probable outcome listen carefully and the ethical ones will tell you. The legal system is not a place to get revenge there are far  better and cheaper  ways of doing that. CURRENT THEORIES ABOUT SOCIOPATHIC CHARACTERISTICS. Scientists debate of course what is the cause of this personality type. There appears to be a strong genetic component as some sociopaths have not experienced  an abusive childhood background.  Some do and this because they need to survive causes them to lie, cheat, use and abuse just to survive. Sometimes it is a combination of both. People also learn from a sociopathic parent how to behave as well. Current scientific evidence suggests that the sociopathic brain does not have localised and discrete emotional centres like the  non sociopathic brain and that the emotional regions are scattered, so scattered that retrieval takes too long or does not occur. Which of course is fascinating stuff as long as some sociopath is not using and abusing you. Sociopaths love tying people up in the legal system, it keeps their victims tied up and busy defending themselves, they are happy to lie, it does not worry them and they are of course so arrogant they think they can beat the legal system and sometimes they do for a while. They cause a lot of trouble before of course the legal system catches up with them because the legal system deals with sociopathic people on a daily basis. There will be some brave and really decent people who will give you a hand and if desperate you can pay a lawyer- they might charge but they are being paid to look after your interests. Lawyers  are of course paid to look after their clients interests not matter how disgusting that client is. Keep in mind their lawyer is looking out for them and will have no problem playing every trick in the book no matter how dirty to win for them. So do not let them or their lawyer wind you up. ( Which of course is why there are some many lawyer jokes putting them in a bad light- do not take it personally that's just their job and sometimes of course the decent ones try to explain reason to their client and are secretly grateful, when after appearing in court for some-one truly disgusting and defending them to the best of their ability they lose. This of course is in serious criminal matters not boring old domestic ones and unfortunately your lot is seen by everyone as just another boring old domestic break up which no-one really gives a shit about and unfortunately in domestic break ups people can and do get away with behaviour that if some-one came in off the street and did it to you they would face serious charges. Sorry that is just the way it is. Leave and take your chances with an abusive partner because if you stay they will destroy you anyway and in most cases it is a choice between two years of shit or another forty with them. The choice is of course pretty obvious. *Whilst there is an element of "dog eat dog" in the game of survival there is another more important element not dog eat dog but "how can all the dogs as a species survive?" *In all groups of animals including pack animals the group as a whole has to survive and if individuals within a group do not survive, as long as it does not destroy the whole group, nature does not care. Nature has of course provided every dog with the ability to take care of themselves. Every dog is of course selfish and looking out for itself. The lower order dogs of course are the least selfish and lack the ability to be nasty and mean. Their lot of course is not a good one. The middle order dogs are of course agreeable types with the right balance of looking out for yourself, being selfish and mean and nasty AND also co-operating, sharing and caring for the other dogs and most importantly looking after the puppies. Bad mothering genes are removed from the pack because the pups do not survive. *There are in every pack of dogs or wolves, the top dogs. Top dogs are of course nasty, mean bullies and their job is to bring down prey and fight off threats to the pack. You of course have to be mean and nasty to do this successfully.  Obviously if every dog was mean and nasty the pack would tear itself to pieces. Having one top dog means that there is less fighting and damage done and energy wasted when it could be used for better things like looking for food. The other dogs of the same sex as the top dog of course do not like the top dog- who is of course not really concerned about this because members of the opposite sex do. *  This job of course is not all that it's cracked up to be. If you are a top dog you have to constantly be on guard for the next top dog who wants your spot .This of course, in between keeping up your mating duties and fighting off animals that threaten the pack  is very stressful. The top dog position is of course only a temporary one until another younger, fitter, nastier and meaner dog takes your place. Also if you become too mean and nasty and dangerous the middle order dogs will gang up on you and turn on you to let you know. * Top dogs within packs normally surrender their top dog spot to the next contender rather than take on another dog who will seriously injury or kill them. Smart move and is the reason that is a rare event for animals to deliberately kill members of their own species. Sometimes during takeover moves  pups or cubs belonging to the former top dog, lion, tiger (and  yes even those cute and    co-operative Meer cats do it occasionally) are killed although their mothers will vigorously protect them and if your mum is mean and tough and protective enough you will survive the hostile takeover moves. Every animal on the planet benefits from having  a good mother. Bad mothering is weeded out although in some co-operative groups of animals other females will rear young not belonging to them. Humans are one of the species that do this and one of the rare species who actually regularly trust other members of their species with their offspring. *Being a top dog in the human world means that these rules apply to you in some ways. The problem of course is that people are one of the rare species who constantly kill or harm members of their own species so of course some  human top dogs  are dangerous predators and sometimes the bottom order dogs become dangerous as well. Normally only top dogs bite because they are mean and nasty and aggressive or bottom order dogs bite out of fear. * Perhaps the sociopath is a top dog who doesn't understand all the rules or a bottom order dog who does. * Law enforcement agencies are the human solution to keep dangerous dogs from damaging the other dogs to much. * Whilst most criminal activity is done by sociopathic individuals not all sociopaths are criminals. Which would tend to suggest that a lot of sociopaths do not get caught or perhaps have figured out a way to be sociopathic without resorting to criminal activity.